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When you get back into the dating scene, you’re going to see a lot of crazy, as if I have to tell you that. You can not waste your time on the wrong guys. Here are four types of relationships that you’ll probably experience over the next year or so of getting back out there and dating.
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1:20 The first commitment pattern is the dramatic. And this is 34% of people from the sample. These are the type of people that you probably dated before. They go from up to down to crazy to normal, and you think, am I crazy, or is this person crazy. And these types of people have much more steep changes in commitment than the other groups. I mean these people spend more time apart and had much lower opinions of the relationship, and their friends and family were much less supportive of their relationship. If you’ve experienced a dramatic relationship in the past, leave a comment saying, yes drama all the way.
1:55 The second type of relationship that came out of this study is a conflict-ridden relationship. And this is 12% of the sample. This group includes the fighters, the people who love to get in arguments over the smallest things. And just like the dramatic group, this group had a large number of downturns, as you might imagine. Now surprisingly, the changes of commitment weren’t quite as steep as in the dramatic group, but still, the conflict-ridden group was people that could not get along. And it could have been one person who is conflict-ridden, or both people who are conflict-ridden — thus creating an enormous bomb in the relationship. Have you ever been in a conflict-ridden relationship? Leave a comment below saying, conflict all the way.
2:40 The third type of relationship you’ll probably find yourself in is what is called a socially involved relationship. And this is 19% of the sample. Now this group experienced a very little variability in commitment, and most importantly, very few downturns than those in the dramatic, and the conflict-ridden group. Interestingly enough, when these changes in commitment feelings did happen, it was mostly determined by the amount of interaction they had with their social network. Or, the other factor is they cared a lot about what their friends and family thought of their relationship. If their friends and family didn’t think highly of their relationship, then they were very unlikely to want to commit.
3:20 Finally, commitment type number four is what is known as partner-focused. And this was 30% of the sample. This group, as you might imagine, had the strongest relationships in the study, and this had the, my partner is the center of my universe approach to commitment and experienced a little downturn. And not surprisingly, their changes in commitment, and how they felt about commitment, really just hinged on how much time they were spending together.
As you’re getting out there, meeting new people, try to fit the guys that you’re meeting into these various categories as best as possible. It’s not going to be easy to do in the first two to three months; it’s really as you get to know someone.