Dating Tips for Women by Patty Contenta. Patty is the founder and author of Sensuality Secrets, a book and DVD set that helps divorced women over 40 who are struggling with their body image feel sexy, feminine, confident, and attract quality male attention without looking cheap or trashy. Patty has become a sought after speaker and radio guest in North America.
Today’s question is Dear Patty, in the past few years I’ve put on some weight and while I do want to lose it, I know it’s going to take me a while. Should I put off dating until I do? Will I attract the wrong guy if I’m a little heavier when we meet?
What saddens me the most is a woman that puts her dating life on hold because of her weight. (that you’re not THIN enough…take off the word thin and it means you’re not enough). Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder…so show up as you are! There are men (not just one man) that will love your curves…if you hate them, then you attract the men that can only see what you dislike.
We’ve allowed the media to tell us what is beautiful and what is not. We need to broaden our interpretation of physical beauty and if we can learn to do that, we’d have a wider pool of people to choose from.
This starts with you…it’s not fun to be invisible…so learn to see beauty in all faces, actually practice seeing something beautiful in every person you encounter. You’ll learn to be less judgmental and therefore attract the man that is also less judgmental.
Why don’t you start by redefining what is attractive to you in a man:
A man that makes you feel respected, beautiful, comfortable to be yourself, safe, appreciated…is when you know he is attracted to You…completely.
Watch the video to see some playful ways to get his attention!