SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? TANTRUMS, EMOTIONAL LABOUR, TOUGH TOPICS
What do you do when they whine and have tantrums, especially in the public? It seems so emotionally exhausting!
To be honest, my child’s public tantrums probably bother you more than it bothers me since you’re not used to them.
From breathing techniques, stern lectures, distracting tactics to leaving the situation, I’ve conditioned myself to manage these moments for years.
But it’s still hard and tiring and the emotional rollercoaster changes as your kid changes.
A mom with grown kids once told me this:
“Little kids, many little problems. Big kids, fewer little problems but more big problems.”
I’m still in the little problem phase where hugs, kisses, silly faces, a little bit of Peppa Pig and some ice cream will do wonders.
But I know the big problems are coming which brings me to the next question that I get asked.
What are you going to do when they get older and you have to talk to them about puberty, sex, drugs, alcohol, vaping, social media, murderers, shootings, pedophiles, everything on the big, scary Internet?
Easy. You talk to them about it and make sure the conversation stays an open one.
Okay, obviously it’s not that easy but that’s really all you can do.
When people are uncomfortable talking about certain things with their kids, it’s either because they don’t know enough about it or because it’s something they’re insecure or ashamed about.
We don’t want our kids to know we are flawed beings, that we’ve made bad decisions, have colourful histories, aren’t experts at everything and that some nights, we also fear the boogeyman.
I’m not at this phase with my kid(s) yet but there’s a reason I have this blog which is to talk about things that never got talked about when I was growing up.
So hopefully you stick around and peruse through some of my posts to give you the courage to talk about these things.
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